Book Review: Attached. The New Science of Adult Attachment.

Have you ever wondered why some relationships seem to flow so effortlessly while others seem to require intense work every day? Have you ever wondered why no matter what you do you struggle to connect to some people? Recently I had the pleasure of sitting down and talking with a colleague of mine Heather Dye about these attachment issues and the book: Attached. The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find-and Keep-Love.

 In their book Attached, authors Levine in Heller help you to determination what attachment style you and your significant other has. The authors offer a roadmap for building stronger and more fulfilling connections with the people you love.

Based on the research of psychologist John Bowlby and others, the book's authors summarizes adult attachment and three main categories:

Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back.

Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.

Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

In this week's video podcast, Heather and I discuss how the books helps readers understand attachment styles in relationship. We also discuss the usefulness and limitations of the strategies for improving your relationships. My opinion is that this book can be very useful in helping people who have been struggling to understand attachment with their close relationships. I encourage you to watch our video podcast to learn more about the book.

I want to thank Heather Dye for taking the time to take part in this week podcast. If you'd like to learn a little bit more about her and her practice, here is her website. www.salvarecoachingcounseling.com